Much has been written about “love corners” and “marriage corners” in the pop culture version of Feng Shui. There is a notion that you can pay homage to a certain part of your house and that this will attract love and romance to you. While this is not completely false, it is certainly a much more generic and simplified way of looking at how our environment influences us. In fact, this notion that you can set up an altar with images of love might imply that the house is a “blank slate” until you do something intentionally with it. This is quite the contrary. The house contains energies fields which were created at the time of construction. These non-obvious energies can influence occupants, usually without them knowing it, and the trickle down affect can be very specific circumstances regarding relationships.
The job of a Feng Shui consultant is to protect their client from these potential unseen dangers, and there are plenty of them. There are house types which can cause loneliness, depression or isolation. There are also locations in a house that can trigger gossip or arguments. There are energies which can promote infidelity or betrayal and these are just some of the Feng Shui influences that can hinder finding a relationship or maintaining one. My book, The Feng Shui Matrix focuses on these types of subjective and personal goals.
Every house has some negative or undermining aspects, but the beauty of Feng Shui is that there are remedies for many of these relationship scenarios. A big part of the solutions involve something called Five Element Theory. By adding a natural, real element to a room, the energies are usually balanced so that the negative predictions will not come to pass, will abate or be much less severe.
People generally find it amazing that something like a red piece of furniture (fire) or a wrought iron table (metal) could actually change a person’s circumstances. Firstly, you have to spend a lot of time in a room for it to have a noticeable impact. This is why so much emphasis is placed on bedrooms, since we spend a third of our lives there.
Next, the very contents of a room, via furnishings or art work, along with the room’s dimensions, can direct the flow of qi (energy currents) in a precise way. Discovering what is going on in a room is not a psychic talent. It has to do with defined calculations which can be learned. Adding or removing certain elements (like a water fountain or a live plant) can change the magnetic field of the room which reveals the relationship scenario.
Sometimes it can seem magical and dramatic. Once I had a client who confirmed that right after she got a beautiful maroon bed cover, her fiancé called the engagement off. There is nothing good or bad about red color (fire). But in her case, adding fire to her bedroom was contributing to energies related to loneliness and separation. I requested that she remove the red bed spread as soon as possible and exchange it for a white bed cover. She also needed a lot of metal in her room so she brought in fifty pounds of metal weights to place in the corner. Within a couple weeks the engagement was back on.This was particularly rewarding, to see how both she and her boyfriend (who did not live with her), were influenced by the Feng Shui energies of her bedroom.
All told, there is a lot that goes into our relationship scenarios, be they personal or professional. We need to have similar values, or at least respect our differences and there has to be a base line of trust and good will so that we can communicate, excel, partner, cherish and be faithful to one another. These are also goals in a Feng Shui audit, to manipulate unseen energies towards a positive, harmonious outcome.
Author: Kartar Diamond
Company: Feng Shui Solutions ®
From the Relationships of All Kinds Blog Series
